So You Were The One Who Cheated And Now You Want Your Ex Back?
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Tristan Lee
Tristan Lee is an aspiring entrepreneur, English Major, and Creative Writing Minor. He has a passion for writing and tries to find unique, different, and friendly ways to help people improve their lives though his writing. Money Turtle Tips By Tristan Lee
Published on 09/18/2008
So you cheated on your boyfriend or girlfriend and they broke up with you Now you want them back right
So you cheated on your boyfriend or girlfriend and they broke up with you. Now you want them back right? Your situation isn't actually as bad as it seems and I bet that one of biggest emotion you may be going through right now is guilt at its worse.
The best way to understand how you can win back your ex is to step out of your shoes for a moment and step into their shoes. Think for a second what it would feel like if you suddenly found out that your boyfriend or girlfriend was being unfaithful to you instead. To get you started, here are two main emotions that people feel when they find out that they have been cheated on.
The immediate first emotion is anger. If you could describe your ex's personality, what was it? If they are the more "insecure type," it's more likely they will be mad at you. Don’t be surprised if they are out trying to get revenge on you by “seeing someone else.” If you want to get your ex back, don’t let that comment scare you. You're ex still loves you, they're just going through a pretty rough time.
Just be mature about it and accept that they may be overwhelmed with feelings of anger and will try to do everything they can to show you that. Ironically, the more they show you, the more they still have feelings for you. Give them some space and time to just chill. In the meantime, try to be as understanding as possible.
The second main emotion when dealing with infidelity is depression. If you feel depressed upon hearing this, hang in there. I know it’s rough but hearing the news that your girlfriend or boyfriend cheated on you with someone else, can leave one’s dignity in the gutter, making them feel almost helpless to carry on. If your girlfriend or boyfriend is of the more "reserved type," it is more likely that there depression will linger on. Again, don’t be surprised if they give you the "silent treatment" for some time.
Be as helpful as you can to communicate with them. Show them that you care even if it just means calling them or sending an email back saying that what you did was wrong and that you’ll do your best to make it up to them. If you could add some humor, that would be awesome. Humor is always a good tactic to break the ice. It's normal if they don’t respond to you so don't panic, but remember, keep the recovery process rolling. Your ex may be pretty lonesome right now, so if you can, help them out by being supportive and giving them positive feedback, even if it means boosting their ego a little bit. This will help them recall some of the cherished memories you guys had together. Hope this helps you and good luck in winning back your ex.
The best way to understand how you can win back your ex is to step out of your shoes for a moment and step into their shoes. Think for a second what it would feel like if you suddenly found out that your boyfriend or girlfriend was being unfaithful to you instead. To get you started, here are two main emotions that people feel when they find out that they have been cheated on.
The immediate first emotion is anger. If you could describe your ex's personality, what was it? If they are the more "insecure type," it's more likely they will be mad at you. Don’t be surprised if they are out trying to get revenge on you by “seeing someone else.” If you want to get your ex back, don’t let that comment scare you. You're ex still loves you, they're just going through a pretty rough time.
Just be mature about it and accept that they may be overwhelmed with feelings of anger and will try to do everything they can to show you that. Ironically, the more they show you, the more they still have feelings for you. Give them some space and time to just chill. In the meantime, try to be as understanding as possible.
The second main emotion when dealing with infidelity is depression. If you feel depressed upon hearing this, hang in there. I know it’s rough but hearing the news that your girlfriend or boyfriend cheated on you with someone else, can leave one’s dignity in the gutter, making them feel almost helpless to carry on. If your girlfriend or boyfriend is of the more "reserved type," it is more likely that there depression will linger on. Again, don’t be surprised if they give you the "silent treatment" for some time.
Be as helpful as you can to communicate with them. Show them that you care even if it just means calling them or sending an email back saying that what you did was wrong and that you’ll do your best to make it up to them. If you could add some humor, that would be awesome. Humor is always a good tactic to break the ice. It's normal if they don’t respond to you so don't panic, but remember, keep the recovery process rolling. Your ex may be pretty lonesome right now, so if you can, help them out by being supportive and giving them positive feedback, even if it means boosting their ego a little bit. This will help them recall some of the cherished memories you guys had together. Hope this helps you and good luck in winning back your ex.